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DarrenJasper · Jun 18, 2005, 03:41 PM // 15:41

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Originally Posted by sojen

Hmm. Don't forget looks is equally important so you can walk around the streets. Get the look of some bum or beggar, just see the response you get when you pass by some people. Stares come right at you.

Would you know from experience?

Serafita Kayin · Jun 18, 2005, 03:44 PM // 15:44

I would.

And he's right.

SOT · Jun 19, 2005, 01:22 AM // 01:22

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Originally Posted by Gear853

Ever liked someone in a game (mmorpg for example) and you wonder why you like them so much!?

i mean you never met them, only talk to them by typing or on voice chat.

i see this happening to few people i know... i mean what the hell are you thinking?

oh what the hell am i thinking... this is first time happening to me. this sucks, f*** girls

This is not EverQuest guru

sojen · Jun 19, 2005, 01:53 AM // 01:53

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Originally Posted by DarrenJasper

Would you know from experience?

Hehe, Actually, I'm the starer.

Pevil Lahuta's Pet Moa · Jun 19, 2005, 02:36 AM // 02:36

Ok im sry, but im gonna have to slap u dude. What are u plannin do do with this girl. You cant exactly go out newhere with her or hang out, and you certainly cant get physical. I mean seriously, online relation ships are one step away from imaginary girlfriends... the truth hurts, but it is the truth nonetheless

Ramus · Jun 19, 2005, 02:59 AM // 02:59

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Originally Posted by Pevil Lahuta's Pet Moa

Ok im sry, but im gonna have to slap u dude. What are u plannin do do with this girl. You cant exactly go out newhere with her or hang out, and you certainly cant get physical. I mean seriously, online relation ships are one step away from imaginary girlfriends... the truth hurts, but it is the truth nonetheless

Eh, maybe if you are 13 years old. My mom met her fiance online and they have been living together now for 3 years.

I met my ex-girlfriend online, we visited eachother over 6 times. A state or two away.

Theres not that much of a difference then going into a game/chat room then going into a bar. Just like the bar, you wont go far if you are under 21.

EchoSex · Jun 19, 2005, 03:30 AM // 03:30

You know, I've never had online romance, but I do have friends now that I first met online. One of my closet friends I actauly first met online then hung out with for a few weeks. We used to be in the same guild and just talked and hunted together and what not. We became close friends but both ended up quitting the game we met in. We still talked on instant messanger and on a voice program *Sype or something? I only used it with her lol*. Later I was going on vacation in Florida, where she lived, so we decided to meet up and spend some time together. You know, this doesnt always happen, but she was exactly how she was online. No lies or anything like that, just a good honest person, which is why she is still my friend today.

However I have had some -BAD- experiances as well... Perverts, people of a differnt gender than they claimed to be (I never get "busy" online anyways so it's not a big deal in anything except trust), 12 year olds, drug abusers, and just plain out liars lurked at conventions I've been to.

So I guess the bottem line is DON'T GET BUSY UNLESS YA VERY VERY DESPERATE! I mean, when you think about it, it IS reallllly easy to ask someone out and keep a relationship going. My first relationship, for example, is now evolving into fiance. Love aint easy, but it's better than online stuff kidos.

DarrenJasper · Jun 19, 2005, 04:10 AM // 04:10

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Originally Posted by Ramus

Theres not that much of a difference then going into a game/chat room then going into a bar.

You must be joking.

Sir Hammonsweet · Jun 19, 2005, 06:40 AM // 06:40

Yeah seriously. It's like "ohh I wanna touch your body so bad right now.... lemme hop on a plane and fly to California..." Besides, I bet most of these people are really awkward when you meet them in real life, so the conversation would start out something like, "So.... played any Guild Wars lately?" Then the world would lose a little bit more of it's coolness.

Talinna · Jun 19, 2005, 04:48 PM // 16:48

hehe.... this is too funny of a thread.... my husband found me online... we didn't live that far apart (45min) so we met up and things went from there now a little under 3 years later our second child is due in two months.

But more to the line of the 'online dating' as we didn't date online
a couple of my husbands friends (he met them playing a mmorgp) met up through him, hooked up (lived two states away at the time) and are now married (have been for awhile) with a little girl.... throw in the fact that she is older than him (as in her second born son is 2 years younger than her now husband), and that they just finally met us for the first time in 10 years and believed that my husband was a female for the first two years they'd known him this story gets really wack (like soap opera wack!) ..... sad part is it's all true!

Pevil Lihatuh · Jun 19, 2005, 07:00 PM // 19:00

hey as long as you odnt meet in a chat room and start out all "so wanna cyber with me?" type shit there's nothign wrong with it.

I met my boyfriend through a forum long since gone. I ended up leaving the forum and since a lot of us were quite friendly on there, I left my MSN so any of them could add me to contact list. Got talking to my bf, and you know what? Without ever seeing pictures of each other we fell in love. Yep, who'd have thought anyone could fall in love with a personality instead of looks *rollseyes* We met up 6 months after first talking, started a relationship that day we met up, and have since been together for 2 years and 3 months. Within about 8 months we'd moved in together.

I see it as less dangerous (if you're not stupid) than meeting someone in a nightclub like most people do. I mean sure, if you meet the guy and he turns out to be a maniac, thats dumb, but at least you're not drunk so you have a chance of defending yourself :P I like the fact that I got to talk to him and become good friends (as i have with many others online) before I went out with him. And no, it wasn't awkward meeting him; we'd spent 6 months or so talking for at least 6 hours EVERY day on msn, we had plenty of stuff in common to talk about.

Strangely enough another guy from teh same forum who's in his 30's now, he met his partner on the internet. Not sure how long they've been togehter (longer than 3 years, thats how long I've known him

), they got married last year and are now expecting a baby in January.

I always thought meeting someone over the internet would be one of the stupidest things you could possibly do; now all i have to say is dont knock it unless you've experienced it. However if you happen to be in different countries its probably a bit dumber

At least we were only 4 hours train journey from each other.

Pevil Lahuta's Pet Moa · Jun 19, 2005, 08:03 PM // 20:03

I know that there are some instances where ppl have met girlfriends, husbands, etc... online, but more likely than not your wastin your time. No offense meant to certain ppl, but i wouldnt say ne1 under the age of 24 or so needs to be dating online (and certainly not MMORPG)

Ok there is a MAJOR difference between meeting som1 online and meeting som1 in a MMORPG. While i shun both it is much worse in an MMORPG. Frankly, im not ashamed to admit i have a somewhat shallow side, or more accurately 'high standards'(meaning that i mush have both a physical attraction and be attracted to the personality, one can't live without the other). As some1 b4 said, most likely the primary topic of conversation has been guild wars, which is hopefully only a small part of your life (though some might be overyl addicted), so you must ask yourself 'how much do you really know about this person?'. Also most likely you have a high expectation of what he/she looks like, because its what u'd like to think. Lastly, I've found that if you talk to a person online alot or phone b4 uve talked to them in person, it makes meetings with them awkward. "Airgo, concordantly, visa vi" (Will Ferrel), I guess its ok to like flirt with this person online and have fun, but to actually date and not go out with other girls is a little too much in most cases.

But my last words are the heart is unpredictable, if you really like this girl and your not desperate/fooling yourself, then go ahead go for it, but do I think you've found your soul mate? Not exactly.

Sekkira · Jun 20, 2005, 02:50 AM // 02:50

I met my current girlfriend online. Living with her now. However we met and were only friends for quite a long time, even after we met face to face we never thought anything about a relationship for some time. We lived a state away but we both had a lifestyle that would have us travelling back and forth between states anyway, so while we were in the same state, we'd hook up and go out with some friends to the pub or something.

I did however have an online girlfriend before that, which ended in disaster. I fell in love with *her* and she fell in love with this knight in shining armour which she somehow made me out to be (god knows why). After we met, she got a punch in the face from reality and pretty much just disappeared without the nerve to say anything to me. Afaik, she's still living in that fantasy world which doesn't say too much for her personality.

I don't have a high opinion of online relationships either from personal experience. Even though when I did have one, we actively exchanged phone numbers and such, tried to keep in touch in other ways then online, which is rather fake. Go for the relationship in the rpg if you want. I wouldn't reccomend it personally, but it's your life. Just don't be surprised if it doesn't work out, you find out 'she' is a guy or whatever. I may work out, but I doubt the chances of it. I will not however be one to turn around and say 'I told you so' if such is the case.

Arvais · Jul 17, 2005, 08:27 PM // 20:27

**Talinna's Husband** I have several friends both that i've met online and knew irl. Alot of us played an mmorpg called nexus. I could name several people that met there, got together irl and are now happily married, including the other couple my wife spoke of. My friend who first introduced to nexus even met a girl from Canada who moved down here to be with him and now they are married. So again as Pevil Lahuta said, don't knock it. You never know where you'll find love, and I find online just broadens your experience and lets you get to know a person more deeply without being distracted by superficial things.

As for doing other things online, find out if the other person is even looking for a relationship and get phone numbers or voice chat so that "she" doesn't turn out to be a "guy." As my wife said, i played a female character and i was pretty good at RP'ing it, so much so that no one really knew cept those that knew me irl. In nexus you can have husbands/wifes and you get certain abilities that come with being married. I made it clear to my "husband" that i wanted nothing outside of the game and for a while that is all it was (disaster later but long story). I enjoy playing both male and female characters though, i don't see anything wrong with it as it is role playing.

Back to the subject at hand, don't "fall" for someone roleplaying, get to know how someone is irl and wether they are male or female before you fall for them. MMORPG are Role Playing games, a chance for people to act different from who they are irl (in real life btw for those that don't know).

PieXags · Jul 17, 2005, 08:36 PM // 20:36

See, here's where Pie gets confused.

PieXags loves all of his buddies, male or female. So when I meet someone in-game and become good friends with them it's like "I rule you" and stuff like that. (That's you know, my way of showing you I care.) My feelings for someone special are my feelings for everybody!

Everyone has my love.

'Cept EchoSex.

His avatar is pink.

EchoSex · Jul 17, 2005, 09:06 PM // 21:06

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Originally Posted by PieXags

See, here's where Pie gets confused.

PieXags loves all of his buddies, male or female. So when I meet someone in-game and become good friends with them it's like "I rule you" and stuff like that. (That's you know, my way of showing you I care.) My feelings for someone special are my feelings for everybody!

Everyone has my love.

'Cept EchoSex.

His avatar is pink.

*Falls on the floor laughing* First time I laughed all day :P

HoodieRat · Jul 17, 2005, 09:13 PM // 21:13

*pets EchoSex* its ok i sitll love you even tho you are pink

Sir Maddox · Jul 17, 2005, 09:13 PM // 21:13

Well, in the end, I think you're all assuming he intends to get sex out of the relationship. I don't think it's all that pathetic or sad if you find someone who's company you enjoy. Granted, I wouldn't go into it expecting much, save a close, non-physical relationship.

And as for the whole "OMFG. You're not even going to touch her! Get a life."
People still use Phone Sex lines, don't they? It's certainly not a far cry. :P

PieXags · Jul 17, 2005, 11:38 PM // 23:38

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Originally Posted by EchoSex

*Falls on the floor laughing* First time I laughed all day :P

Haha, that's what I'm here for. My purpose is to bs to the point of everyday laughter.

Everyone needs a Pie like me. Everyone.

Even me.

As an addition so this isn't spam...

There's nothing wrong with in-game romance so long as it's the person behind the screen you're having feelings towards, and not the female elementalist polygonal exterior.

Keesa · Jul 17, 2005, 11:58 PM // 23:58

Ah, see... I think that when you have feelings for the person behind the screen, it stops being an ingame romance and becomes a real life romance. But I am assured by friends that ingames can be fun, as long as both parties realize that the relationship ends at the pixel. It's when there's confusion and difference in expectations that things go awry.

As for meeting your true love via online stuff...

My mom and dad (stepdad really, but the only dad I've known) met once, corresponded for a year by mail, and decided to get married on their second date. They've been married now for 20 years.

I don't see that being a lot different from meeting someone online, talking to them via the 'net daily, meeting in person, and developing a relationship that way.